Dear Men, We Need You

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. -1 Corinthians 13:11

Dear Men

“No uterus no opinion” equals garbage. For decades now, women have monopolized (or blocked) important conversations by declaring themselves the only ones allowed to have an opinion. We need men with opinions. Please, for the love of all beautiful things in this world, have an opinion. After all, it was men with opinions who ended American slavery, it was men with opinions who freed us from England’s tyranny, it is men with opinions who go towards the danger and pull people from burning buildings, and track down sexual predators, and create laws that protect the innocent, and work long hours at often miserable jobs for the sake of sustaining life across the globe. So men, please, for the sake of us all, develop hard and fast opinions, guided by knowledge and wisdom, that you not only say out loud, but that you stick to and live by on a daily basis.

This is the only way we will rebuild the bridge that has been burned between men and women. It is the only way we will rebuild society and it is the only way we will regain trust in our institutions. Men, please have opinions. We need them and we need you. More than ever.

Strength & Honor

Honor: Integrity, honesty, uprightness, ethics, morals, goodness, fairness, decency, justice, righteousness, dependability, faithfulness. 

Strength: Robustness, firmness, soundness, durability, stability. 

Wishy washy men, who apologize for and hedge their every word, who are blindly guided by the next buzzword social issue are not strong leaders in a community. Strength and honor used to be the goal, the making of  men who built empires and defended values and principles with their lives. Think King Arthur, all those knights around that round table. Or the musketeers and their loyalty. That used to be the benchmark. 

Now, unfortunately, we have men who are scared to get up and do something. They stand by and pull out their phones and let someone else deal with it. Men now make excuses for certain behaviors, and never quite own any actual stance on any subject – especially controversial ones. With “men” like that at the helm, young men and women turn to someone who can give them what they need: structure, rules, opinions, strength, and honor. So what happens when we run out of men with strength and honor? Where does society go?

We’ve told men for decades now that they aren’t allowed to have opinions on certain topics. “No uterus, no opinion” being the most popular catch-phrase of women everywhere. This leaves men in the horrible, emasculating, demoralizing, and cancerous position of being useless blobs that go where the wind blows them. This is just as harmful to women as it is to men—even more harmful to children, especially those born decades from now who will deal with the smoldering ashes we’ve left behind in our weakness. As Jordan Peterson likes to say “If you think strong men are dangerous wait until you get a load of weak men…” Weak men damage things. Hurt people hurt people. The last thing we need is hurt, damaged young men who have been told to shut up one time too many. It’s time for men to reclaim their opinions.

Wisdom and Knowledge are KEY!

“These are the days when the Christian is expected to praise every creed except his own.” – G. K. Chesterton

Seek wisdom. This is great advice for everyone, but men, as leaders, must seek wisdom and knowledge to be the leaders we need most today. Dig into your faith, strengthen your prayer life, read everything, fashion your opinions on the rock of knowledge and wisdom. Find other men strong in their beliefs and opinions, question everything, root out the wisdom behind particular stances and beliefs, seek truth, and practice it all on a daily basis. As the writer of this article, I am not this source of wisdom, there are generations of saints and wise men to guide you. Find them. Wisdom and knowledge are key to forming good opinions built on Truth. Find the creed of truth and praise and live it.

Where Do Women Come In?

As women, there are some very basic things we need to do to help men be men with opinions. Whether you’re raising boys, dating, or simply building up your marriage, these are some basics for encouraging men to have opinions.

  • Women need to encourage men to make decisions and sort through the consequences
  • Women need to let men talk and help them sort through their thoughts in order to form opinions
  • Women need to offer guidance and be a piece of the wisdom in their lives
  • Women need to hold themselves to the same standards they hold men to

There are so many more things that need to be done to help men be men again. Women play a huge part in that — we need to be the companions and help-mates in their lives, the bulwarks and compasses to the navigators and leaders among us.

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