How I Fight Against the Common Culture—A Modern Mom’s Approach to Society’s Pressures
Maria Manfredi |Each morning, as I drive my son to school, I see elementary kids waiting for their bus, heads down, glued to their phones. It’s a scene that breaks my heart. While I start my day by checking my phone for necessary tasks—turning off alarms, checking on the baby, and reading my verse of the day—I then put it away and focus on the day ahead. These kids, however, are likely lost in a sea of endless content.
“Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.” – Ephesians 5:15-16
My almost 13-year-old son still doesn’t have a smartphone, which makes him a minority among his peers. We’ve made this choice intentionally. As millennial parents—the last generation raised without the internet, but introduced to it during our *later* adolescence—we understand the risks, the potential for harm, and the reality of social media bullying and anti-Christian rhetoric online.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4:23
Many parents argue they need smartphones to stay in touch with their kids, but there are alternatives. New devices exist with no internet access, designed only for calling and texting. They offer peace of mind without exposing children to the darker sides of the digital world.
Against the Common Culture
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” – Proverbs 22:6
When people worry about bullying, I remind them: a cell phone doesn’t make your child popular—being kind does. We only get one shot at raising our children, and it’s our duty to protect them. With increasing reports of online bullying and predators lurking on apps like Snapchat and Roblox, it’s more important than ever to be vigilant.
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” – Romans 12:2
As Christians, we are called to go against the grain of culture, to be strong and courageous. My son chooses to attend school rather than homeschool because he wants to be a light. He wants to be in person to bring people to Christ. He is already so brave and bold. Yet he notices the bizarre contradictions: kids can wear tails and whiskers in class, but AirPods are banned.
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” – Joshua 1:9
I even wrote to our superintendent about these distractions. The response was dismissive, which only highlights how disconnected the local leaders are from what’s happening in classrooms and online.
“Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.” – Ephesians 6:11
A Modern Mom’s Approach
As Modern Mom’s in 2024, it’s not possible to shield our kids from the world—we must actively guide them through it. Daily Bible study is a powerful way to keep them rooted in truth. Encourage them to get involved in youth group and stay busy with positive activities like sports, which build character and discipline. Have tough conversations early—discuss how to handle difficult topics and how to bring truth to their friends in a compassionate way. Teach them how to pray for their classmates and engage in meaningful conversations. Equip your children to do their own research, always pointing them to Jesus as their ultimate guide. By staying deeply involved in their spiritual growth and their everyday lives, you are preparing them to shine God’s light and stand firm in their faith, no matter the environment God is calling them to.
So moms, we must FIGHT and continue to FIGHT to make classrooms normal again. We are the protectors of our children, and it’s our responsibility to stand up against the cultural influences that seek to distract and mislead them.
The world may try to change our values but, with God’s help, we will raise children who shine His light in this world.
“For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.” – 2 Timothy 1:7