We’re asking where the feminists are, we’re asking what conservatives are doing, and we’re wondering where all the strong men have gone. And certainly we need to be asking these questions—especially when it comes to the gender ideology madness coursing through America’s veins right now. However, do we realize that we are each the answer? It is up to us to hold the line instead of relying on others to do the work. And there is so much work to be done.

It’s ironic, that our main beef with modern feminism is that they have nothing to fight for; women already have equal rights, women are already respected and taken seriously–what on earth are feminists screaming and crying about now? Women hold some of the most powerful positions in the world. First wave feminists would be proud. Until…

Until you look at the current state of affairs on the social level. You’ll see that everything we’d fought for is being erased. We used to want to be recognized as women, but we’re now called bleeders on a far too regular basis. We used to want fairness in all areas of life, but now we’re being beaten bloody, trampled, and trounced in our own sports by none other than MEN. Not too long ago we were hearing about the alleged rampant sexual misconduct of men not held accountable, now we let them waltz into private spaces to ogle women in vulnerable situations. We used to want girls to be allowed to explore a wide variety of hobbies and interests, but now the minute a girl shows any interest in a rough sport or conventionally masculine hobby or job, she is manipulated into believing she is a boy. Her girlhood and future womanhood are stripped from her hands before she even knows what’s happening. And this madness is just getting started.

So how do we hold the line as individuals in an era where bullying and silencing dissenting opinions is not only popular, but encouraged? How do we stand strong and fight back when every major social structure is against us? When we hear a call to action, what are some real, tangible actions we can take to combat the madness in our current age? Recently, we shared a quote from Megyn Kelly on our Instagram:

“If we don’t find our voices and start speaking up against this nonsense we can kiss every woman’s space goodbye.” – Megyn Kelly

We even had a comment asking what we’re supposed to do. And we don’t want to leave anyone hanging and feeling hopeless. So we’ve compiled a list of things we can do as American women, mothers, and Conservatives to preserve women’s spaces, honor both sexes, and encourage sanity.

Why It Is Up To Us

Before we hop in, I think it’s important to note that there has been a pandemic of bystander effect raging through our culture. This manifests in someone pulling out their phone to record a fight instead of stopping the attacker. It looks like walking past a confrontation, or not standing up for someone. It also sounds like silence in the face of ideologies and social policies that hurt, kill, abuse, or manipulate innocent lives. It’s letting the hurt be hurt and the disaffected be disaffected without expending effort to find them real help or offering tough love.

For decades men and women have fought hard to create a world where people of both sexes feel comfortable and safe. Not too long ago there was plenty of shouting over the need for women’s spaces for breastfeeding, the right of women to not be ogled in public or private spaces, and the importance of taking every woman’s word as fact when it came to sexual misconduct. But now it seems our minds opened a little too far and our brains fell out because  all of the sudden there is a huge push to scold women who say they’re uncomfortable in a man’s presence, there’s no such thing as a women-only bathroom or locker room anymore, and breastfeeding is no longer a politically-correct term.

As logical, empathetic, honest, Truth-seeking people, it is up to us to enact change and to speak up. We love Megyn Kelly, appreciate Trump’s work and The Daily Wire’s outspokenness, but the time for relying on a special group or a favored individual in the public eye to be our voice is more than over. It’s up to us—the individuals who do the majority of the working, living, and dying in America—to hold the line.

How to Hold the Line

1. Stop giving money to companies that don’t support women and let them know. Ulta, Bud Light, Nike, Target, and others have made their position clear; they are not in favor of women, not really. Stop giving them your money, start letting them know that you’ve taken your money elsewhere. It may feel like the $50 you occasionally spend at these stores won’t make a dent in their financial stability, but if enough of us dissent, they can’t ignore us.

2. Contact your local, state and federal representatives. Call, email, make appointments at their offices to kindly share your opinion. It’s hard, especially for introverts, but the more inundated they are with the public’s opinion on certain topics, the more they might think twice before voting against that opinion.

3. Attend your school board and PTA meetings. Show your face is a common theme for a lot of these suggestions. It’s a lot harder to screw over someone you know than a nameless, faceless constituent. Simply showing up, getting involved, and making your voice heard at local school board and PTA meetings can shake up the status quo.

4. Pay attention to the materials your children are bringing home from school. Be observant. Trust no one. It’s scary to think the people you are entrusting your kids to might not have their best interest at heart, but you just never know. It’s better to be safe than sorry. So keep an eye out for anything that seems off, that just doesn’t sit right, or that is overtly wrong. And don’t be quiet about it.

5. Support people who share your values. Like, share, follow, comment to bump the algorithm for them. Social media is a necessary evil if there ever was one, but it’s a great way to find community and lift the voices you agree with. Engage with like-minded content creators so that the biased social media algorithms have no choice but to boost their content.

6. Share your heartfelt feelings on social media with honesty, kindness, and facts to back up your concerns. There is plenty of research out there that points directly to the truth of things, it’s just ignored in the mainstream. Handle all interactions with kindness, but bring the data and life experiences that people might never be told by mainstream media. For example, the mainstream ignores the numbers when it comes to things like post-surgery trans suicide data, or the deadly side of abortion and the abortion pill.

7. Attend peaceful rallies to show your support. Show up to the March for Life, show up on the capital steps to advocate for school choice, be there for de-transitioners as they tell their stories, find groups headed to important government buildings to advocate for what is right and join them!

8. Point out the hypocrisy. We’re taking on the madness with logic, so (very kindly) point out hypocrisy when you see it. On our Dear Men, We Need You post there was a comment (hey there @maryithomas!) on the post that read: “But the same people who say ‘no uterus, no opinion’ normally will also think a man can get a uterus transplant, call himself a woman, and then he gets a vote.” And this is exactly what we’re talking about. Good social discourse requires someone to point out the disjunction and hypocrisy of ideas. It’s the only way we find the truth.

9. Gather with women who agree with you on this topic. Or really, any topic. Community, the village if you will, is based on a community of like-minded individuals coming together for a common purpose. It’s so important. You are not alone, and the issue of keeping women and young girls safe, of protecting the sanctity of womanhood and femininity, and of countering madness in our society depends on a united voice. Come together as a group and go to rallies, host fundraisers, do email campaigns to representatives, attend school board meetings, and raise your kids. Even if you don’t agree on everything, there is certainly something you can unite around and work together on.

10. Follow the other side. Social media has us comfortable in our bubbles, but it’s important to see what the other side is saying. And straight from the horse’s mouth is the best way to find out exactly what they are preaching. In this way, you can evaluate their stance, find common ground where you can, and better develop counterarguments to their points. More importantly, engage with them. Very kindly post your opinion in the comments, point out the hypocrisy, or simply state that you might agree with them in some areas but not others.

11. Be courageous. Finally, find courage. There are some things in this world that are too precious to lose. Our children’s innocence and safety are high on that list. Courage is not easy to come by; it’s human nature to seek safety. But we’re at a critical point in history—we can wash our hands of it all, or we can stand for what matters. Here are some Bible verses and quotes to instill courage as you join the fight for future generations and the amazing country we all call home.

“Courage, dear heart.” – C.S. Lewis

“The Lord is my light and my salvation;
Whom shall I fear?
The Lord is the strength of my life;
Of whom shall I be afraid?
When the wicked came against me
To eat up my flesh,
My enemies and foes,
They stumbled and fell.
Though an army may encamp against me,
My heart shall not fear;
Though war may rise against me,
In this I will be confident.” – Psalm 27:1-3

“You must do the things you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

“Faithless is he who says farewell when the road darkens.” – J.R.R. Tolkien

“No half-heartedness and no worldly fear must turn us aside from following the light unflinchingly.” – J.R.R. Tolkien

“My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth.” – 1 John 3:18

“In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.” – Proverbs 3:6